I’m speaking from my experience of managing to stay sexually pure; it’s not meant to be a legalistic list of dos or don’ts.So please read it for what it is—advice from your sister in Christ.
How many thousand marriages have ended disastrously because women expected they could change their men!
Are you thinking about dating or marrying someone you are not sure belongs to the Lord Jesus? If, however, you are already married to someone who does not belong to the Jesus Christ, then Marriage in a Minor Key is the webpage for you. The most important decision is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. And does he understand the full implications of having to share you with Christ? Moreover, prior to marriage a man is more motivated to please than he is ever likely to be after marriage.
What I am sharing with you is the fruit of my experiences, some of which has been very bitter. Tragically, countless thousands of good-living members of wonderful churches know all about Christian terminology and lifestyle and seem so indistinguishable from born again Christians that they have even convinced themselves, and yet the spiritual miracle of new birth has not yet happened in their own lives. So were the Pharisees those religious leaders of Christs day who kept the letter of the law, but it turned out they only knew how to show love their mistaken interpretation of the law. But were finding it hard to contain our sexual urges. (This carries great dangers because many men during this time fool their wives to be into thinking they are Christians.
This advice is designed for Christian women who are single, not Christian women who are married to non-believers.
Furthermore, it’s written with the assumption that, as a Christian who loves Jesus, you know that God’s word says marrying a non-Christian inadvisable and having sex before marriage is wrong.