If finding a boyfriend meant having to rock heels every day and spend more than five minutes on my makeup, I would stay single forever. Hadn’t I been trying on personality traits that weren’t my own as a way to get the guy? I liked my quirks, my sometimes strong personality, my inability to endure high heels. I noticed his behaviors, how often he would say please, how often he asked me about myself. Suddenly, it seemed like I couldn’t go on a first date without an offer of a second. By refocusing my attention on how I really felt about these men, I realized that I wasn’t drawn to a lot of them. And then one day I went out to breakfast with my friend Jenny, who was certain she had the answer. I wanted a man who loved my tousled beachy hair and my ability to get ready in three minutes. [I don’s want to be the most important person in your life] But then I realized her comments were versions of my own internal thoughts. Hadn’t I been spending entirely too much time combing my soul for flaws? I listen as the singer, hissing with rage, addresses her ex."Every time you say her name, does she know you told me that you’d love me until you died? "You can’t escape this mess you left behind." These harsh words draw me into the singer’s ugly circumstances.“Well shit me..” you think, “at least I’m not stuck in a barren post-apocalyptic energy-starved Earth trying to establish diplomatic relations with a bunch of damn dirty apes! You bore friends endlessly about your stress and your fretting, hoping for reassurance that it will all work out.
Passing the car, I turn up the radio to a song I have heard before.I’ve always hated waiting for a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer.I was recently listening to a podcast with the film director Kevin Smith, who had to deal with his own dreaded scenario of ‘playing the waiting game’.In recent years behavioral scientists have shed some light on why waiting techniques can be powerful.Let’s first look at the notion that texting back right away makes you less appealing.