If it hasn’t already, it may soon, or you may be one of those lucky few who are able to cruise through their entire life with just one loving mate. I know it’s hard, and you will take a while to move on.
But to the awful tons of people who aren’t that lucky, and have broken up, or are still are licking their wounds or still crying their hearts out over a dead relationship, this may be an eye-opener. There’s no happy ending when you try looking for that little ray of sunshine from your ex’s rear end. You were so in love and your ex was the only person in the whole world that mattered to you. The break-up hasn’t bothered your ex much, and they’ve moved on.
‘Drugged by sorrow,’ writes Fisher, ‘most cry, lie in bed, stare into space, drink too much, or hole up and watch TV.’ At the level of the brain, overtaxed dopamine-making cells begin sputtering out, causing lethargy and depression.
I’ve been there, but I recall having a different take on how to get better. Was I going to let my ex ruin my next six months by crawling into a hole? But the most surprising part of Fisher’s theory – and the least supported part – is that there is an evolutionary adaptive function to being sad: it makes your ex feel sad, too.
You have a knot in the pit of your stomach and an unbearable pain in your chest.
You wake up in the middle of the night thinking about your ex, an endless mind chatter bombards your head and you imagine what you could have said to save the relationship and what you would say if/when you see your ex again.
Try getting those words out of their mouth, and you’d feel a lot better, even if it hurts initially.
Give them an opportunity to yell that they hate you, and never want to see you in their lives again.
========================Just a gal Why did you use the expression "easy way out".
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Finally you wake up and you dread the day ahead, you even feel anxious.
Not even in the shower can you stop thinking about your ex and throughout the day every single thing reminds you of your ex: songs, movies, streets, pictures, restaurants and worse of all your every room in your house seems to have scenes of both of you playing constantly.