People don’t like to waste time, and Japanese women especially are unlikely to want to hang out unless there is potential for romance.A lot of importance is attached to what to some may seem like a casual date.Here, “high school dating” matches girls in uniforms with men in their 40s and 50s and beyond. Sometimes this involves a walk around the block or a drink in a bar.More often, it involves sex — child prostitution by another name.I would especially love to hear back from my Japanese friends with their thoughts and perspectives on the topic. Any more I can learn will only serve myself and others better. Japan, and as I understand it most of Asia, has a very different dating culture than that of the West.I can best describe it as courting with initial ambiguity.Things also move much more slowly than in the west.



Those couples that wait until marriage report the highest satisfaction and quality (Willoughby, Carroll, & Busby, 2014): This study found that the longer a couple waited while dating to become sexually involved, the better their relationship was after marriage. With many couples, the physical intimacy part develops slowly (Back to Japan, 2011; Larkin, 2005). This lends to the slow (in American eyes) development of the physical aspects of dating.
This article will focus on Japan’s dating culture and marriage attitudes. These ideas are good advice for anyone seeking to develop friendships and romantic relationships: I will expand on the third point.
It is one of the key differences between Japanese dating customs and American dating customs.
In fact, many people won’t feel as if they’re truly dating until one of them confesses.
Asking someone out on a date is not the same as confessing your romantic intentions.