In my opinion, there is a lot more than just 15 years that separates you from your 42-year-old boyfriend.
He's had a heck of a lot more life experience than you have.
You finally meet someone you really, really like and want to introduce him to your kids. It's the respectful thing to do if you have a good relationship with him. Here are a few ground rules for introducing a new love to your children. A group setting allows children to feel non-threatened. Go Slowly: Remember, you might be in love, but your children need time to get used to a new situation. I had to take him aside and say, “I am so glad you like him!
Before you even think about introducing your children to your new boyfriend, you need to have been dating for at least six months. It takes at least six months to begin to really know a person. Group Setting: Have the first five meetings in a group setting.
The two may still be in contact, especially if kids are involved.
During the relationship he may run into old friends who ask about his divorce and his ex-wife, so mentally prepare yourself for that.
Have a long talk about expectations, discipline, money, education and anything else you might deal with. You want your children to be happy in this new environment.
Determining Whether to Continue Your Relationship Interacting with Your Significant Other Building a Relationship with His Children Community Q&A So you've met the man of your dreams..he's got kids. This article first appeared on Gal By Marina Sbrochi You thought dating was hard the first time? You don’t want to introduce someone and one month later have to explain to your children why they don’t see "Mike" anymore. Telling your children they have to be nice or like someone is a sure fire way to ruin the meeting. For instance, a backyard BBQ with friends and your new man. Trust me, going slow now will ensure you have success later. One Mom, One Dad : Reassure your children that they only have one mom and one dad. I told my children this a few months after I introduced my then boyfriend to them.Here you are, single again, but this time with children. I would also advise that you let your ex-husband know you are introducing someone to your children. It’s not just your life; it’s your kid’s lives too. You should introduce him as a friend and give your children the chance to get to know your guy in a fun, relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. My son actually liked my boyfriend so much he wanted to call him dad.If I follow what feels right, am I setting myself up for future failure? Usually, we don't question the things we know in our gut to in our best interests.You are concerned that a 15 year age difference may be a "terrible idea" or "setting yourself up for future failure." Are these irrational concerns, or is this your intuition trying to out-talk your infatuation?