The same concept applies to a dating or courting relationship.Sitting together cuddled up in a dark room on a comfy couch, alone, for hours on end, is placing you both in temptation’s way.In faith, you have become part of Christ's body, and it is Christ through the Church, who must give you permission to join His body to another body. The place where the Church confers that privilege on you is the wedding; weddings are specific acts that grant us permission to have sex with one person. The New Testament makes clear that sex beyond the boundaries of marriage — the boundaries of communally granted sanction of sex — is simply off limits.To have sex outside those bounds is to commit an offense against the body.If there is an area of weakness that is compromising your purity, be honest with yourself and set up safeguards to protect your relationship. Good relationships are built on constant positive communication.
In Matthew 18:9, Jesus stated: “If your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away.” That sounds pretty extreme! Jesus wants us to be harsh with the things that cause us to sin, literally cutting them out of our lives—even when it’s painful and difficult. This honesty goes beyond telling each other the areas that need boundaries.
We all have a craving to be known and loved unconditionally, and to express this love sexually and without holding back.
Sex is really about an intimate, soul-to-soul encounter.
It involves vulnerability and trust, and God designed marriage to be the place where this intimacy can be safely expressed (1 Thess.4:3).
The Bible tells us that the pathway we need to take until we get to the day of our wedding is a path of purity.