I receive a lot of emails from people who are in a relationship with an adult child of alcoholics.
They are trying to understand the person they love, or are trying to love, but they don’t know how to decipher the code of adult children of alcoholics.
I consider an “adult child” someone who was raised by child-like parents, insecure, needy, narcissistic parents; parents who were unable to assist their children in forming their own, independent sense of self during childhood.
Rather than nurturing their child’s sense of self, these parents used their child to attempt to uplift their own vulnerable ego. Ideally, every baby born into this world is surrounded by unselfish, patient love and nurturing from at least one or two parents.
At about this time I was reading The Art of Eating, by M.
It can come as a surprise when you’re dating someone who reveals that he’s a recovering drug addict.
It goes without saying that he probably led a lifestyle that seems vastly different from the one he’s living with you.
While some people can easily relate to and embrace the fact that everyone has a past, others can find it hard to reconcile the two.
If you’ve decided to move forward with the relationship, here are some dos and don’ts that will make dating someone in recovery a lot easier for both of you.