“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.“Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.” They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate.When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.Robinson syndrome." You'll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women.We've made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer.“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.
Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite. ‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’ On top of this, the older guys had no chat. My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.New French President Emmanuel Macron, 39, has a wife, Brigitte, who is 24 years his senior, while supermodel Heidi Klum, 43, has been dating art dealer Vito Schnabel, 30, for more than three years.Actress Gabrielle Union, 44, and her husband, Chicago Bulls player Dwyane Wade, 35, are often lauded as a power couple. “Older successful men are used to being in control of a woman, and that doesn’t sit well with modern women,” says Susan Winter, co-author of the book “Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance.” “Younger men have grown up with working women and have worked for female bosses, so they’re more likely to treat women equally.” Some in these relationships agree.Partly because the current financial climate doesn’t allow the latter, but also because I enjoy my freelance, nomadic lifestyle.I tend to meet guys while I’m away travelling/working overseas and most of them are younger than me, but age really isn’t as big of a deal when you’re travelling as it is back home.